Playing the Field: Scorpian Man in Waiting, and More! is a The Caprican Lifestyle article written by Sharon Edmonson. It was printed in Martius 14, YR42. This is the third and last article in the Playing The Field column.
Well, from your responses to our last column, it looks our advice is really coming in handy. So without further ado, here's some more love and dating advice for our loyal Caprican readers.
I'm in need of some advice. I'm originally from Scorpia but moved to Caprica about a year ago, in that time I've meet and fallen for a beautiful young lady. Problem being is that I've already confessed my feelings for her. She hasn't given me an answer yet so what should I do? I'm prepared to let her take as long as she wants on this but...personally I don't think she understands how much I love her. Any tips that might help me in this?
Sometimes these things take time. There are those of us that are more forthcoming with our feelings and there are those of us that need to test the waters a little before they jump in. Sounds like this young lady is walking around the pool's edge, dipping her toe in as she goes. We're all for being patient with the ones we love, but don't be "that guy" who treads water forever waiting for his girlfriend to take that leap. Believe us, waiting can get old (and tiresome) faster than you realize and sooner than later you might find yourself becoming resentful of this woman or pressuring her for an answer. Believe us, neither is an attractive quality. So if she doesn't return your affections soon, let her know that you deserve to be with someone who loves you for exactly who you are. And that someone should be able to tell you so. There are other fish in the sea and if she has you on the hook for too long, it's time to go fishing elsewhere.
xoxo Playing the Field
I have a problem. My girlfriend is from Aquarion and she wants to have a few kids if and when were married. The problem is on Gemenon, the priest want to bless each child born into a family. And they don't take interplanetary marriages too lightly. I want children, but the priest and my parents aren't gonna go for it. How can explain this to her in a way that lets her down easily? Or do i just say frak it to my planet, parents and culture and just raise kids with her here on Caprica, where no one cares? Your advice would be really appreciated.
It sounds like you're so caught up in your Gemenese cultural ways that you haven't even stopped to have a conversation about this with the woman you're planning to marry and have kids with! We suggest you spend less time worrying about how to "let her down easy" and more time talking to her about how much your culture means to you. There are plenty of people who've agreed to raise their kids in the culture or religion of their partner and maybe your girlfriend will be one of them. Or, if she has a strong connection to her Aquarion heritage maybe you can figure out a way to instill the values from both of your cultures into their lives. Though we are, of course, partial to living and raising a family here on Caprica, it sounds like your situation is a little more complicated than that. Now put down your e-sheet and go have a conversation with your girlfriend. It may take some time, but if you guys really love each other and are committed to being together, we're pretty sure you can find a way to make things work.
My boyfriend is from a polygamous sect and my parents are monogamists from Gemenon (moved to Caprica for business and stayed - considering their beliefs I have never understood why!). I'm cool with plural relationships and we are already developing an arrangement with another couple but my parents are having a fit. Any suggestions? I love my parents but want to do what is right for me and my first marriage with someone of their beliefs did NOT go well!
It's never easy to feel like you're choosing between what your heart wants and what your parents believe. But just because your first marriage didn't work out, doesn't mean you should run screaming from monogamy. At the same time, you "being cool" with polygamous relationships is not the same as you desiring one. It sounds to us like maybe you need to spend some more time figuring out what it is that YOU want. Put aside the pressure you're getting from your boyfriend and your parents and listen to what your heart is saying. Only then will you be able to do what's best for you. And no matter what you decide, if it's truly what your heart desires, your parents and your boyfriend will understand. It may take some time but, trust us, they'll get there.
Sincerely, Playing the Field
That's all for now dear readers. Don't forget, post your love and dating questions in the comments below and we'll pick a few more to answer next week.
Go ahead, ask us anything.
Love PTF (Playing the Field)
p.s. For those of you who criticized the title of this dating column (Playing the Field), we're pretty sure you missed the subtle nod to pyramid. Don't worry, we forgive you.